… and real women have them.
I happen to think that’s pretty simple.
As much as I hate saying it, I’m apparently wrong.
I’m feeling especially ranty this morning because I woke up to all sorts of reactions from last night’s airing of the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show. While there were some that talked about how wonderful the costumes were or how gorgeous the lingerie was, most of the chatter revolved around what the women looked like.
Most of the comments I’ve seen, however, are some variation of the following:
This bitch should eat a sandwich.
She’s so skinny, it’s disgusting.
She’s clearly sick.
And this is the part where I bang my head against my desk for an hour. Because WHY.
I gotta ask, if we’re so quick to blame our genes for making us fat, why wouldn’t genes be responsible for these women being skinny? They aren’t clearly sick or disgusting, they just look different than some of us.
I’m irked by this seemingly well-intended movement about real women having curves. While it may have started as a catchphrase to dissuade innocent women from the horrors of an eating disorder (sidenote: whoever though EDs were about food was seriously wrong, but that’s another topic for another day) or as a pathway into body positivity, it’s now used make the “normal women” feels superior for not wearing size 2 jeans. Again: why? Why does it matter?
If anyone is really worried about the self-esteem of tomorrow’s youth, perhaps we should be teaching them instead that comparison is the thief of joy. Maybe we should tell them that whether they’re built to look like Miranda Kerr or Adele, that they are beautiful and have value as a woman. Instead of teaching our daughters and nieces that real women have curves and that “those women” are sickly and abnormal, let’s teach them that it’s never okay to question someone’s identity as a woman because they weigh ten pounds less than the average woman.
And let’s not even get me started on the “normalcy” of being “average.” That’s a whole ‘nother can of worms.
The fact is this: if you identify as a woman, you are a real woman. And fuck anyone who tells you otherwise.