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Talking About What Matters

I’ve been blogging, through one medium or another, since I was nineteen. That’s a solid 1/3 of my life sharing my thoughts. Prior to that, I wrote in a journal. I think I started writing about the inane goings-on of my warped brain as soon as I was old enough to grasp a pen, so that’s another twelve or so years of writing. What I’ve seen lately as I’ve read different blogs from different people is that certain topics are off-limits. Whether it be politics or religion, abortion or marriage, I’ve come across more than a handful that almost proudly state that they will never talk about those topics on their blogs because it’s a drama-free zone, or some similar statement.

While I can respect the idea that people just don’t wish to share their opinions (although I’m not even sure about that theory, because a blog is all about sharing opinions), and that it’s ultimately up to every one of us to decide what we want to share with the world, that’s not something I’ve ever subscribed to, whether on this blog or any of the previous ones. Perhaps it’s the lawyer in me, the opinionated narcissist that has a view on everything. Maybe it’s the crusader in me that seems to think I can shed light on injustice (don’t worry, I laughed at that too). Whatever it may be, the fact remains that, in my mind, the ickiest things are the things that need the most dialogue, and it’s the ickiest things that have the least commentary, at least as far as lifestyle blogs are concerned.

I mentioned being a narcissist above. I’m only halfway kidding, and that pains me a little to admit. That said, though, I’m not narcissistic enough to believe that anything I write about would change anyone’s heartfelt opinions on a certain topic, nor do I believe my writing would ever be far-reaching enough to make a legitimate difference. I can recognize what has become my niche: I write about my dreams of finding Sasquatch on a four-wheeler and that one time I got my tongue stuck in a bottle. 95% of the time, I write about fluffy things, because a great deal of the nature of my personality is, reluctantly said, shown through fluff and humor. I’m self-aware enough to recognize that.
The other side to me, though, is fiercely passionate about issues I hold dear, and I’d hate to think I’d shy away from sharing my thoughts on a particular topic because of some arbitrary, self-made rule that scares me into something less. I’m largely vocal in my personal life about marriage equality and women’s rights and problems with the compartmentalization of religion and politics, so it stands to reason that I’d talk about it from time to time here as well.I think I’m just rambling at this point. Or maybe I’m lubricating y’all for the posts that I have written that I just haven’t published.  Let me be clear: I certainly don’t want to imply that everyone needs to write sweeping essays about the ongoing impact of the Rwandan genocide or how religion is failing American youth. I’m not saying that at all. Each and every one of us is different, and there is nothing wrong with not wanting to address topics that you aren’t comfortable with. I’m simply saying that if something has been put on your heart to share, maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad idea to share it, in spite of it being light years away from your usual content. I’m speaking to those who want to talk about the icky things that don’t. I know that’s where I’m coming from, and what led me to write this entirely-too-long manifesto about it.

For me, I know that I have a drafts folder full of things that are the exact opposite of bar carts and peonies*, and it’s about damn time I woman up and publish them. 

(*not that there is anything wrong with bar carts and peonies. I adore these things. I also love icky topics, though, and that is the point I’m attempting to make.)

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  1. OH girl I love this! I love how you take on these issues, and even more I love your passion when I read one of those posts. I believe in talking about the things you believe in and stand for too! It's a respected thing! XOXO

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  2. I really think you should post those drafts. I always love to read other peoples thoughts on icky things.

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  3. Renee wrote:

    This is such great motivation for those icky topics!

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  4. YES. Get it, girl.

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  5. Kenji wrote:

    If someone doesn't want to read your icky topic posts then so be it, but I believe we have these blogs for a reason, and that reason being we share our opinions. Share away!

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  6. Rose L wrote:

    Do it!

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  7. Jenn Wells wrote:

    Well said! Also, way to disagree with respect – a talent too few people possess. What first brought me here was your post about self image and not judging people for being fat OR thin, and I'd love to read more like that!

    Jenn | Business, Life & Design

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  8. Amen amen amen!!!

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  9. Lex wrote:

    love love love. i think you hit the nail on the head with this post.

    *two thumbs up*

    i vote you start a discussion about politics or religion or something. 🙂

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  10. GO FOR IT! I think there is a very big difference between emotionally talking about something and logically expressing your opinion on a topic.

    I've seen some bloggers write about controversial topics emotionally, and it's been ugly.

    But then I've seen people like Lisette of Northern Belle Diaries write about gun control in a very logical way, and her comments were just a wonderful discussion.

    -Jackie
    http://ournashvillelife.com

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  11. Amanda wrote:

    I LOVE how opinionated you are, and I truly wish you would post more of it. You have lots of good fluff, but I personally started following because of a post that was about gay marriage, or religion, or something like that. Idk, I've been following for awhile! Not to sound cheesy and weird, but it was one of your posts that helped me to reevaluate my personal beliefs at a time in my life when I really had no clue what I believed. So I hope you post all your drafts! 🙂

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  12. Kay wrote:

    Some of my favorite posts of your's are the ones that tap into those ridiculous "taboo" blog subjects. So I'm probably a little overly excited about your posts this week! I suppose it helps that you and I share some of the same views, hah!

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  13. Not for nothing, but if you have a post breaking down the historical and future socio-economic impact of the Rwandan genocide, i'd be interested in reading it.

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  14. Yes to this! I, too, started following your blog because of a post sharing your opinions, which I greatly respected. Excited to see more of these posts in the future!

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  15. One of the reasons I love your blog so much is that it is REAL. I love that you don't just post fluff all the time, you are intelligent and educated and know your shit. Your writing means something which I love.

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  16. Heather wrote:

    I'm with you…I'm not quite sure the point of having a blog, if you can't share your opinions and things you're passionate about. If more people talked about politics, perhaps more people would vote in elections. The voter turnout at Texas' primary runoff last week was embarrassing.

    -Heather
    I do what I want.

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  17. shannon wrote:

    at the risk of sounding serious and heartfelt – your fiercely passionate posts are some of my favorite ones that i have ever read. get down with your bad self, ty.

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