Hi everyone, Mrs. Benfield here (wait, what).
Being married is still so surreal to me. It’s been a little over two weeks since the wedding, and Dale and I catch ourselves, at least once a day, looking at each other and giggling, usually with an accompanying “Hi, wife” or “Hello, husband!” As much as I loved our relationship before, it’s gotten so much cooler in the last few weeks of being married. I may have often scoffed about marriage and how a state-recognized union isn’t an absolute necessity for a great, long-lasting relationship (and I still don’t believe it is for everyone), there was something so special about the ceremony and the formality of it all for us. I look at his left hand and smile.
So what now? As all newlyweds can attest, the question from everyone you know immediately after the wedding is, “sooo …. babies?” Short answer: yes, I’d like to. It’s also not lost on me that I’m thirty-five years old and considered (in the pregnancy world, at least) *ahem* geriatric, which is rude and uncalled for and definitely needs a name that doesn’t make me feel like I’m ninety. Whatev. In any case, we’re a bit laissez faire currently, so that’s all on that for now 🙂
(all images: JP Elario)
We’ve been doing laundry for days and days, and I brought back a touch of the plague from Mexico (seriously, my entire family ended up with the flu immediately after the wedding, and the crud took me out from Friday through today). I’m also working on changing my name on everything I own — I decided to keep every name I’ve been given, instead of dropping a middle name or a maiden name. Tyler Lucille Sowers Benfield. That’s what makes sense to me. Professionally, though, I’ll leave my name the way it is, simply because I’ve been in the legal community for a decade as Tyler Sowers, and changing my work email would be a colossal pain in the ass for everyone I work with.
I’m so excited to share all of our wedding experiences, from our venue search to how we chose a photographer (probably our most asked question!) to our honeymoon in Mexico. Now that the dust has settled, it will be much easier to sit down and document everything wedding. I also have so many things in drafts that I had planned out and then abandoned because between work and life and wedding, I had to prioritize myself away from it.
There is something about our wedding that I’ve compared to New Year’s Eve. You know that hopefulness you get at the beginning of a new year? The feeling that you can do anything and be anything because it’s a brand new beginning? That’s how I feel now. Everything is possible.
We’re both so excited for what is to come, and I can’t wait to share it.